This vignette from Seth Godin appeared in my inbox the other day:
“If your posture is to give hoping that you’ll earn the moral high ground and thus get something back, you didn’t give first.
You gave second.
You’re saying, “how can I incur a debt, one that I’m going to use to achieve my goals.”
If the words ‘I’ and ‘my’ appear in your reasoning before you get to the work you’re hoping to contribute, then your goal is reciprocity.
Calling it generosity merely confuses the issue.”
It’s really got me thinking.
Just imagine if we changed “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine” to “Fancy a back scratch?”.
Should “How can I help?” change to “What help are you looking for?”.
In fact, shouldn’t any question we ever ask another be focussed only referencing the person you’re asking?
If each of us took this on board, wouldn’t that improve everything for everyone?
And all it takes is a slight change of perspective or consciousness.
What’s stopping you (or me) doing just that?
What are we scared of?
Only when we’re 100% focussed on the other person, in all matters personal and business, can we ever possibly hope to help them.
Anything less than 100% is robbing them (and you) of the best of you, isn’t it?
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